Consequences

Every action reaps a reaction in the world of Physics. It is this way with human relationships as well. 

I often listen with amusement to subway " ...then I said then she said, then I said..." monologues. These loud monologists are often illustrating their rationalization for being enraged at the words or behaviors of the other party. I imagine a parallel conversation on another subway car in the city. 

Thinking of the consequences of action is one goal of humanist practice. It is also a key process in developing compassion. In thinking out consequences in social interaction, we develop the skill of placing our attention on another person's world. We pay attention to differences. We no longer assume that the other person thinks or feels just as we do. With this understanding comes respect. 

As I have learned the practice of taking full responsibility for the consequences of my words and actions, I have found I am less likely to offend or mislead in conversation. I am also more likely to listen and understand. 

Rehashing offenses in subway monologues is a sure way not to grow. It does not lead to reflective consideration of personal responsibility. Practice is hard. It requires growing up. It requires taking full responsibility for what you put into life. It requires surrendering unrealistic expectations of life. The consequence of humanist practice can be an ongoing development of peace and joy in life.